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Excuses In Alcoholism Treatment

I can’t get help because…

What’s your reason?

There’s always an excuse. There’s always a reason we can fall back on, as to why we can’t stop drinking *now*. It’s never the right time.

Later, sure. That’s fine. But not now.

 

Because, (e.g.)
– I have too many mental health issues to cope with, without alcohol
– My doctor says it’s too dangerous
– I have to care for someone else, who will look after them if I can’t
– I’m too nervous or anxious to look at my problems properly
– It runs in the family, I would be outcast if I stopped

…and on and on it goes.

 

Excuses are fine, as long as we know they’re excuses, and not genuine reasons. Most alcoholics don’t.

 

The emotional boulder addicts are running from, even after drug & alcohol detox, usually only gets bigger with time. And as the binges continue, life becomes more chaotic. And the only way to deal with the chaos, is of course, more alcohol.

 

But there’s a fine distinction in timing, as to when excuses occur.

 

For instance:

– An excuse when an alcoholic is deep in the throes of the addiction, is just that – an excuse. No one pretends there are any good intentions underneath this.
– But an excuse in the midst of trying to get help is different – once someone has committed enough, to *want* to get help, then an excuse at that point, is the addicted part of the individual, the denial, trying to go backwards, and reclaim access to the coping mechanism it’s about to lose.

 

This second example is much more dangerous as it threatens to spoil a perfectly good attempt at recovery from addiction, as we’ve been retriggered maybe by something unexpected, or some element of the way we react to the world – has been threatened. Help to address denial is available via treatment, a friend attended this Scottish alcoholism treatment centre, and speaks very highly of the care she received; she entered treatment initially still in some denial.

 

I think what I’m trying to say here, is…there’s an additional vulnerability that someone has, who has admitted they have a problem with alcohol, and is genuinely seeking help, as opposed to someone still in the throes of an active addiction, with zero intention of getting better, at that point.

 

Here at Cedar we’re focussed on assisting with alcoholism rehabilitation in central Scotland, and recognising these differences in denial, in ourselves and others, can make a difference. Specifically, it can either reduce, or extend, the number of times we go round in the circle/cycle of addiction and chaotic behaviour, before finally admitting we need help.

 

 

How Denial Manifests Through The Stages Of Alcoholic Addiction Recovery

SayingNoAddiction denial is baffling. That’s the truth. Likely, we’ll never truly understand it fully.

Pre-Treatment

Resistance toward help for addiction – no matter what form an offer of help takes, it will be met with resistance.

Whether this is a gentle conversation nudging in the right direction, or a more serious threat of removal of support;

Any offer of help becomes a threat to the alcoholics only means of survival – alcohol.

 

This may seem like an exaggeration – but alcohol is literally their only way to cope at this point.

So any suggestion that might take that away – even the best treatment in the world – an alcoholic perceives even this can’t make up for the overwhelming emotional deficits they feel beneath the surface.

 

During Treatment & Ongoing Recovery

Denial surfaces again during treatment.

This could be during alcohol detoxification itself, or actually doing therapy work on the psychological components that lie beneath the behaviour of addiction.

 

Inevitably this will involve changing behaviours, changing social circles, learning new ways to react to old triggers, that previously resulted in alcohol use.

Whenever a part of a new behaviour we’re trying to integrate, goes against the grain of the old alcoholic patterns in our lives, we will find denial surfacing once more.

 

Whenever a part of our recovery, that we’re being told is required, contradicts an old behaviour, an old way of being, an old routine – and will therefore cause emotional pain to break – is when denial will surface again.

Because denial, means, that there are enough parts of us left, still attached to the old alcoholic behaviour patterns, to believe that it serves some means to cope.

 

This pattern will repeat itself throughout our entire recovery journey, until we’ve fully integrated all the aspects of change that we need to embrace, in order to become a fully functioning individual again.

 

It’s the age old case of, what we resist, persists.

 

But the end result, can only be, an individual who, through the help and support of others, and through taking responsibility for their own life, has now adapted all the old behaviours, into behaviours that function, that serve the individual no matter what stressors arise in life.

 

A person that is better rounded, more whole, and who has grown immeasurably since first admitting the addiction issue they have.

 

 

Into Recovery & Beyond – Integrating New Behaviours And Coping Mechanisms

Once the most obvious elements of our behavioural patterns of alcoholism have been dealt with, possibly at one of the nhs drug rehabilitation centres uk, and new resources and behaviours are put in their place, we then need to maintain these.

 

But this doesn’t necessarily protect us from feeling retriggered.

In some cases, e.g. where trauma has led to the initial alcoholism, an aspect of the trauma can be re-triggered later, in a way that hasn’t come up until that point. In a way which we weren’t able to address properly before.

 

Maybe we coped with that old trauma with alcohol, and thus, the old excuses come back.

At these times, it’s more important than ever to have a variety of new supports already in place, to turn to, when unexpected events come up.

 

Denial is powerful, at all stages of addiction, but with the right support and tools, and a willingness to pick up 100% personal responsibility, we can overcome it.

 

Addiction .v. Mental Health Issues

How much of my addiction is addiction, and how much is mental health issues?

It’s a tricky one.

Especially in those diagnosed with complex MH issues. Usually, you’re taking your meds, minding your own business. And it’s helping manage the symptoms.

But how much of the addiction is being ‘held down’ by the mental health medication required?

How much are the underlying issues of the addictive pattern in your life being suppressed, because the bipolar, or borderline personality, or Schizophrenia, need to be managed, just to function each day?

I think the truth is, we never really know, until we’re in treatment.

We never really know, until we’re off the meds (within reasonable limits and with supervision of course)….in a controlled setting.

That’s when the real reasons for the addiction surface – the reasons why we turned to the (insert your poison) in the first place.

And, it’s a scary prospect. Do we even remember what life was like without the meds? Who we were?

The idea of getting up in front of people to admit….to face the shame….

Both the meds and the addiction layer on top of each other. At least that’s how it felt to me.

And hid who I really was. And the reasons I was addicted.

But with the right help, some gentle nudging in the right direction, and lessons that we need to learn, it IS possible. And help is available. There’s a number of alcohol services for the community, throughout Scotland and the UK.

We just have to want it sometimes. Not even all the time. But if there’s enough of the part of us left, that wants the help (that knows it needs the help) but is crippled by the fear underneath……well then sometimes that’s enough.