I can’t get help because…
What’s your reason?
There’s always an excuse. There’s always a reason we can fall back on, as to why we can’t stop drinking *now*. It’s never the right time.
Later, sure. That’s fine. But not now.
– I have too many mental health issues to cope with, without alcohol
– My doctor says it’s too dangerous
– I have to care for someone else, who will look after them if I can’t
– I’m too nervous or anxious to look at my problems properly
– It runs in the family, I would be outcast if I stopped
…and on and on it goes.
Excuses are fine, as long as we know they’re excuses, and not genuine reasons. Most alcoholics don’t.
The emotional boulder addicts are running from, even after drug & alcohol detox, usually only gets bigger with time. And as the binges continue, life becomes more chaotic. And the only way to deal with the chaos, is of course, more alcohol.
But there’s a fine distinction in timing, as to when excuses occur.
– An excuse when an alcoholic is deep in the throes of the addiction, is just that – an excuse. No one pretends there are any good intentions underneath this.
– But an excuse in the midst of trying to get help is different – once someone has committed enough, to *want* to get help, then an excuse at that point, is the addicted part of the individual, the denial, trying to go backwards, and reclaim access to the coping mechanism it’s about to lose.
This second example is much more dangerous as it threatens to spoil a perfectly good attempt at recovery from addiction, as we’ve been retriggered maybe by something unexpected, or some element of the way we react to the world – has been threatened. Help to address denial is available via treatment, a friend attended this Scottish alcoholism treatment centre, and speaks very highly of the care she received; she entered treatment initially still in some denial.
I think what I’m trying to say here, is…there’s an additional vulnerability that someone has, who has admitted they have a problem with alcohol, and is genuinely seeking help, as opposed to someone still in the throes of an active addiction, with zero intention of getting better, at that point.
Here at Cedar we’re focussed on assisting with alcoholism rehabilitation in central Scotland, and recognising these differences in denial, in ourselves and others, can make a difference. Specifically, it can either reduce, or extend, the number of times we go round in the circle/cycle of addiction and chaotic behaviour, before finally admitting we need help.